‘Ello, ello! I’m back from glaringly hot and sunny Kota Kinabalu, where Mr. Panda & I had a short weekend and a long day of pre-wedding photography. Didn’t bring my Mac with me, so quite malas to blog on the weekend. Not that there was any time. We literally landed at midnight, got settled, woke up with the birds the next day and had a full day of shooting, followed by some private sister time with the youngest Panda princess, Ning, at City Mall (where I also managed to select and pay for my “Guo Da Li” package. More on that later.)
We were supposed to leave at 6.40pm the next day, and before that, meet with the pastor, attend church etc. But Airasia retimed the flights early which meant we had to cancel the church plans and go off to the airport really early instead.
So anyway, back to the photography. We picked Aru Bridal, mostly because of Babyduck’s recommendation, and also because they were housed in a beautiful colonial bungalow with a pretty garden, and located right across the beach. I like that we won’t have to waste any time traveling too far from one scenic venue to the next. More bang for the buck, if you ask me. Less time spent traveling = more shots = higher possibility of picking something you really like from the pile. Considering Mr. Panda & myself (not exactly the poster bride & groom you’d find on top of a cake), we’ll need all the help we can get.
So picking a bridal house with such outstanding readily accessible snap-points is a huge plus. And you know what, it wasn’t expensive either!
We got there by 9 am, and I got into hair & makeup for the first shots, and it just went on from there until lunchtime. Mr. Panda & I snuck back home to grab a bite & to chat with Mom. He took some snaps of me in my “supermodel makeup & hair”.

I had temporary human hair extensions clipped on, courtesy of my darling Babyduck, who had left them at the bridal studio. Makeup was by a nice lady called Hong, from Aru Bridal. The diamante “BRIDE” tank-top is from Victoria’s Secret. I couldn’t resist the kitsch factor.
Jeans are old, by MANGO. Makeup here is a bit garish for day-to-day but works beautifully in photos.

I wasn’t trying for the Hooter-girl pout here. Honest! It just happened to look that way! Mr. Panda brings out the “miaowwww” in me, I guess.

Here’s a close-up of Bridezilla, as you’ve never seen her before. The makeup artist was raving about Babyduck’s hair extensions, since I didn’t have any volume or sheen in my own pathetic undernourished crowning glory. So we determined that for my actual wedding day, I had to have proper extensions ready so she can do her magic!
I desaturated the colour in this picture because the bright makeup was a bit much for me.

I made this sepia-toned to cover the fact that Mr. Panda took a blurry picture!
The Shoot
The weather on the morning of the shoot was perfect. Blue skies, the sun was shining, everything we needed for a perfect day of shooting. Mr. Panda was as stiff as a board of course. At one point, the photographer Lotty (poor woman) took me aside and asked me to “please make him smile”. I did my best, nothing worked, until I glared into his eyes (I’m sure it must’ve looked loving and intimate in the photos, but trust me, it wasn’t a loving kinda glare). And I said, “Darling. Smile. Now.” He seemed to think it was funny, and burst out laughing. *bemused* Well, whatever works. As for the results, (will post them later when we get the soft copies), well, my mother laughed out loud and commented on Mr. Panda’s apparent inability to smile. He looked like he was suffering throughout. I shoulda made him do some kungfu moves.
Bridezilla’s Tips on Pre-wedding Photo Engagements, based on experience:
1. The photographer was nice to work with, and took really pretty scenic shots, but provided little posing guidance, preferring to let the clients be natural. However, when working with non-professional models who collectively have about 40kg to lose, there should have been more direction on posing in such a way as to be flattering. Most photographers revert to the old fomulaic poses; face the camera with your back, and then turn back to look at the camera, for eg. Now when we did that, my back-fat and the underarm flab looked obscenely huge, and Mr. Panda suddenly developed a third chin!
Solution? Trust your instincts, and ask the photographer to show you on the little screen after a doubtful shot. If you look awful there, you can put your foot down and say no, when they request certain other shots. Remember, you’re the director here.
You and hubby should do your homework beforehand, and pose in front of the mirror or get hubby to take pictures of you posing, and then swap. Read websites, magazines, close your eyes and think up creative ways to present yourselves in a way that fits your personalities. But ultimately, you should be the one to know which poses flatter you best, what’s your best side, etc. Be more proactive. You’ll reap the benefits later.
2. The makeup was fine, but the updo for my bridal shoot wasn’t the look I was after. I should’ve brought pictures of the hairstyle I wanted, just to give her a visual reference. Remember: there’s no such thing as being TOO prepared.
3. I’m particular about accessories, and the generic rhinestone stuff they have in most studios really don’t turn me on. I should’ve brought my own accessories. In fact, I should’ve had a clearer concept of the entire shoot instead of leaving it to the photographer who does not know my taste nor should she be expected to. Bridezilla dropped the ball there.
4. Make sure that your hubby removes all keys and mobile-phones etc from his pockets. It distorts the shape of his silhouette and can ruin an otherwise pretty picture. Mr. Panda’s Nokia was clearly outlined in one of my all-time favourite shots, and now we can’t enlarge it. I’m still miffed with him. WHO BRINGS A MOBILE PHONE IN HIS PANT POCKET WHEN TAKING PHOTOGRAPHS???!!
5. Make sure that hubby keeps his jacket buttoned during formal portraits. An unbuttoned jacket gives a sloppy unkempt appearance and can spoil the picture. The problem is, most photographers concentrated on the bride to make sure she looks great in the photos, and not so much on the man. Hey. Who wants to LOOK like they’re married to a sloppy, pudgy idiot with three chins??
6. Little things matter. When he is seated, is the gap between his hem and the top of his socks showing? TACKY. Is his tie crooked? BAD. Is he sweating? What about his fingers? His teeth? And the bride…are her boobs looking like they’re about to fall out of the bustier? Is the ‘lean forward cross your arms’ pose too obscene? I had to call a stop to the ‘lean forward, hubby please stand behind her and put your hands on her waist’ poses the photographer was so keen on doing. Looked a bit x-rated to me. Also, be aware of your surroundings. Our absolute fave shot couldn’t be used because the photographer’s assistant decided to position us next to a giant light bulb that added nothing to the ‘framing’ of the picture.
I must say though, we had a lot of fun doing this shoot. The people are great, the photographer was really dedicated, and the price is good, and with a bit of proactivity on our part and experience on theirs, this might be an outstanding adventure!
Mr. Panda & I are already planning to take more pictures after the wedding. We like pictures, and once we’ve lost all the weight we’re supposed to, this might be a good way to celebrate.
Props to Lotty, for being so dedicated and staying till 1.30am to rush the proofs for us before we had to depart the next day. We asked for about 6 pictures to be edited first, for our wedding website, and another 1 for Mom to put in the wedding announcement and the reception invitations. We’ll be getting the fully edited soft copies next week. I can’t wait!
Once they’re uploaded in our wedding website, it will be time to announce our engagement to our friends.
Stay tuned for more updates!